First Semister

I am a self-proclaimed awful date; I read and talk about books and would much rather sit at home and surf the net than get all dolled up to go meet someone new. I had pretty much resigned myself to being alone forever (at 25) when I had a friend suggest internet dating to me recently.

At first, I thought to myself, no way! That’s something only desperate people do! I’m not desperate. Then I ate my microwaved mac and cheese for dinner and realized I’d better give it a try.

Since then, I have been happily dating, getting out of the house, and having all kinds of fun with all kinds of people. At times I think back to my 25-year-old self sitting on the couch eating my microwavable dinner and I am so happy that I gave it a try! Although I haven’t met “the one” yet, I think with time and patience, I will eventually.

Tonight I went on a date with a guy that wasn’t usually my type. I figured that trying something new may lead me down a different path. He was tall, handsome, and funny. We went to a watering hole downtown for a few hours after we had some dinner. He seemed charming throughout the entire dinner, but as soon as we got to the pub something shifted.

As we started to have libations, he became more loose. You know, letting his hair down. He was still funny, completely charming, and seemed to enjoy conversation with me. Things were going really well. That’s until his wife showed up. Not his ex-wife or wife he is separated from, his actual current wife. He clearly should not have been christian dating.

You see, I had met him online. This isn’t always a problem, but taking a more cautious approach may have made this situation never happen. The moral of the story is, do not date anyone that you haven’t performed a background check on. Just kidding. Just be careful.

Loneliness is something you live with when you’re single in a small, rural town so I decided to try online casual dating. I figured it would be an easy way to meet men in nearby towns without having to leave home.

Singing up to meet someone is much harder than it looks though, because you have locate a decent picture of yourself and write something catchy. This is far harder than it looks.
How do you write about yourself honestly without looking desperate? Still single at thirty-five sounded scary, as if I was wasn’t datable or way too picky. I went through all the other profiles and stole bits and pieces of other women’s profiles, using my own age and interests. I still have not hit the send button yet, this is just too important. Maybe I should add indecisive to my profile.

Even though I am very new to the dating game I have learned that it is always best to arrange a date in a public place with someone you have only just ‘met’. I had been emailing and speaking to Hans on the telephone for just over a couple of months when he suggested that I call round to his apartment one evening for a chat and a few beers. I felt as though he could be trusted but I really didn’t feel comfortable with his idea so I asked him if he would be happy to meet me in a bar in any of the Hong Kong hotels in the centre of the city. He told me that the decision was mine so then all I had to do was decide what to wear. I was still a little bit nervous about our first date but that was part of the excitement. Hans made such a positive impression on me that we have dated each other several times since although I still haven’t accepted his offer to go to his home.

We decided to do some remodeling throughout our entire home starting out with the bedrooms. We have four spacious bedrooms and replaced broken fixtures and put on a fresh coat of contemporary paint. Once all of the bedrooms were complete we went shopping for new furniture and found some affordable and elegant looking designer beds.

We were so happy with the progress that we were making that we are now working on finishing our basement. All the painting is complete and now we are working on plans on how to have that perfect basement. My husband wants a pool table, a bathroom and a wet bar for our family functions. I want to make sure that we have a spare bedroom sectioned off and of course I want a big laundry area.

Troy is a quiet man of few words and dislikes idle chit-chat. His wife Clara is a non-stop talker and complainer. They have been happily married for over 50 years. What’s their secret? Troy’s hearing began to diminish after about 20 years of marriage, a casualty of long work hours at the sawmill. The long hours away from Clara and the slow and steady decline of Troy’s hearing kept the couple together until he retired a few years ago. Now controlled hearing keeps the aging couple together and happy. Clara can talk and complain all she wants and the hearing aids Troy wears in both ears allows them to happily occupy the same room at the same time. He turns them on, off, up and down as desired, hearing what he wants to hear and filtering out the chatter he can live without.